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Saying "No"

The decision making thread got me to thinking a bit about group responsibility, and one point came shining through --- people often times have a hard time saying "No" to a group.

I remember the first time I did it ---- I was on a club paddle in Narrgansett Bay, RI, and the conditions turned rough. A group decision was made, and half of the group turned back, and went in. The rest of us all agreed we were comfortable with the conditions as they were. We got to the town beach at Narragansett, and the surf was about 2 1/2 feet, and dumping. The leader decided to go in there for lunch. Normally, I would be one of the first ones into the surf zone, but I wasn't feeling well, so I said I'd stay just outside the break, and eat lunch in my boat. No fewer than 4 people tried to talk me into going in anyway with the rest of the group. I held my ground and said "No".

I felt much better after eating, and finished the rest of the day without incident. And you know what? I find it real easy to say "No" now that I've gotten over the initial difficulty of doing it once. There's no shame in saying you're not up to a particular challenge.

Oh, and about 5 people capsized in the dumpers that day. And I had front-row seats to watch the carnage ;-)

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