a few quotes for ya to ponder. I thought these were appropriate:

"As social beings we live with our eyes upon our reflection, but have no assurance of the tranquillity of the waters in which we see it." Charles Horton Cooley (1864-1929), U.S. sociologist. Human Nature and the Social Order, ch. 6 (1902).

"I have nothing to declare except my genius." Oscar Wilde (1854-1900), Anglo-Irish playwright, author. Comment, 3 Jan. 1882, at the New York Customs. Quoted in: Richard Ellman, Oscar Wilde, ch. 6 1987).

"If we could see ourselves as others see us, we would vanish on the spot." E. M. Cioran (b. 1911), Rumanian-born French philosopher. The Trouble with Being Born, ch. 3 (1973).

"It is terrible to destroy a person's picture of himself in the interests of truth or some other abstraction." Doris Lessing (b. 1919), British novelist. The Grass is Singing, ch. 2 (1950).

And Finally, This one is for you Mr. Roberts:

"Neither man nor woman can be worth anything until they have discovered that they are fools. This is the first step towards becoming either estimable or agreeable; and until it be taken there is no hope. The sooner the discovery is made the better, as there is more time and power for taking advantage of it. Sometimes the great truth is found out too late to apply to it any effectual remedy. Sometimes it is never found at all; and these form the desperate and inveterate causes of folly, self-conceit, and impertinence." Lord Melbourne (1779-1848), English statesman, prime minister. Quoted in: David Cecil, The Young Melbourne, ch. 9 (1939).